Information for Sexual and Relationship Therapists

The female version produces a Total GRISS Female Score as well as subscales of:

• Anorgasmia – the extent to which a woman is able to attain orgasm.
• Vaginismus – the extent of any tightness around the vagina that interferes with sex.
• Non-communication – The extent to which a couple are able to talk about any sexual problems.
• Infrequency – The number of times a week (or less) on which sexual intercourse takes place.
• Female Avoidance – The extent to which a female partner is actively avoiding having sex.
• Female Non-sensuality – The extent to which a female partner gains pleasure from touching and caressing.
• Female Dissatisfaction – The extent to which a woman is dissatisfied with their sexual partner.

The male version produces a Total GRISS Male Score as well as subscales of:

• Impotence – the extent of any difficulty experiened by a man to achieve an erection.
• Premature ejaculation – the extent to which a man has the tendency to ejaculate too soon.
• Infrequency – The number of times a week (or less) on which sexual intercourse takes place.
• Male Avoidance – The extent to which a male partner is actively avoiding having sex.
• Male Non-sensuality – The extent to which a male partner gains pleasure from touching and caressing.
• Male Dissatisfaction – The extent to which a man is dissatisfied with their sexual partner.

It will also be important to assess the state of the couples relationship more generally. The Golombok Rust Inventory of Marital Satisfaction (GRIMS) has been designed for this purpose.

Information for couple who may wish to seek help

An online seach for therapists in your area will indicate potential counsellors and therapists who specialize in these relationship issues. In London, for example you my try Psychology Today (link as of 23rd March 2024)

Embarking on the journey to address and enhance the sexual aspect of your relationship can be a delicate venture, filled with vulnerability and the quest for mutual understanding and fulfillment. Recognizing the need for guidance and support in such a confidential area of your lives is a significant step toward nurturing and strengthening your bond. The Golombok Rust Inventory of Sexual Satisfaction (GRISS) is a tool designed to facilitate this journey, offering both you and your therapist insightful data to guide the therapeutic process.

Understanding the GRISS

The GRISS is a meticulously developed questionnaire, tailored for use by therapists to assess the sexual satisfaction within heterosexual relationships. It is not just a series of questions but a refined tool that reveals the intricacies of your sexual relationship, providing a clear picture of where you both stand. This inventory covers a range of areas, including communication, physical intimacy, and sexual functioning, and identifies specific aspects that may benefit from professional support and intervention.

The Role of the Therapist

The use of the GRISS is a collaborative process between you and a highly qualified therapist. This professional is not just a mediator but a guide who understands the complexities of sexual relationships and the challenges that couples face. Completing the GRISS under the guidance of such a therapist ensures that the evaluation of your relationship’s sexual health is conducted with sensitivity, expertise, and a deep respect for your privacy and comfort.

Setting Your Minds at Ease

It’s natural to feel apprehensive about discussing intimate aspects of your relationship with a third party. However, know that seeking help is a sign of strength and commitment to each other. The therapeutic environment is designed to be a safe space where your confidentiality is paramount, and your feelings and experiences are met with empathy and understanding. Your therapist will use the insights from the GRISS not to judge but to illuminate the path toward a more satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Finding the Right Support

Identifying an appropriately qualified sexual therapy clinic is crucial to ensure you receive the support and care that match your needs. Look for clinics that emphasize the importance of confidentiality, have a team of certified and experienced therapists, and hold a philosophy of care that resonates with your own values and expectations. Many reputable clinics also provide information and resources on their websites, allowing you to familiarize yourself with their approaches and the therapies they offer.

Taking the First Step

Remember, reaching out for help is the first step in a journey toward deeper connection and understanding within your relationship. The GRISS, coupled with the expertise of a compassionate therapist, can provide you with the insights and guidance needed to navigate the complexities of your sexual relationship. It’s a journey of discovery, healing, and ultimately, greater intimacy and satisfaction.

Conclusion

The decision to seek help for improving the sexual aspect of your relationship is a courageous and positive step forward. By engaging with the GRISS and the support of a qualified therapist, you are opening the door to understanding, growth, and the possibility of a more fulfilling sexual relationship. Let this process be a testament to your commitment to each other and a beacon of hope for a happier, healthier future together.